Are You A Boring Boyfriend?

Words by Thomas Jamison

You may have it all, on the surface, but someone forgot to tell you it’s harder work to keep it then to acquire it. “It” includes that dime that treats you so good, puts up with your mess and is a freak in the bed and a lady in the streets. While you may be content in the course the relationship is taking, when was the last time you really took time to ask her? You might be surprised what her answer would be.

Signs of Trouble

When things are starting to go wrong, your girl will likely tell you, in some form. She may be the type that can be upfront and verbally explain her displeasure, or she may the type that will act differently towards you. From my own personal experience, women tend to not be happy when you stop doing things you used to do. It might be that you used to always bring her flowers, or just take time out of your day to call her and tell her you missed her. Now, though your schedules are just as busy, you aren’t able to fit that in.

One big sign of trouble is if you two are boring to each other now. When you first started dating, you two couldn’t wait till the next time you saw each other, and would always have fun, no matter where the night took you. Now, you sit at the dinner table at the restaurant, and spend more time responding to emails and facebook status updates than engaging in good conversation.

If you feel you have become a boring boyfriend, here are three easy, quick bits of advice:

1. Do what you used to do.
Ask your girl what were the things you did that made her fall in love. Prepare yourself for some healthy criticism, but realize she is telling you this because she loves you, and wants you two to work.

2. Surprise Her.
Do something that you know will put a smile on her face, but don’t tell her. Perhaps you can stop by her job and hand deliver flowers, making her the talk of her office. You might want to leave work early to get her from the house and go out for a early dinner. If you know she’s had a long week, treat her to a gift certificate to the spa for a massage or facial.

3. Listen.
Your girl will always tell you what you need to know to keep her. Whether you listen to her is the key.

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