Help – She Doesn’t Want To Have Sex Anymore!

In this week’s edition of Monday’s Mailbag, YB reader Carl drops us a note about his recently decreased sex life with his girl.

YoungBrothas,
I see you guys have a sex Q+A and wanted you to answer this. My relationship has been going on strong for almost a year now, and over the past 3 months the sex has sucked. We started out going at it all the time, at least 3-4 times a week. Now, I’m lucky if its once a week. I don’t know what changed, but it’s not cool with me. Before I confront her, or accuse her of cheating, what do you think could be the problem?

Check out our response to Carl after the jump.

Carl,
There are a number of factors impacting your relationship that may cause your girl to not be excited about you two being intimate anymore. Are there any on-going problems in your relationship that have not been resolved recently? Is she having any medical problems that may be affecting her? Is there any recent physical changes in either of you that may cause her to feel insecure about her body(weight gain), or not as attracted to you physically(weight gain)?

Before you begin to accuse your girl of stepping out on you, you have to first look in the mirror. Ask yourself those tough questions to see if you are the root of the problem. After you have done that, and come to a place where you can say you aren’t, then have an open and honest conversation with her. This talk may sound a little different than ones in the past, but it is definitely necessary. As you said above, you two were used to having sex 3-4 times a week, and now you are down to 1. That drastic change usually happens when “something” changes. Note I said some thing, not some one.

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