Help – She’s Moving In My Place!

In this weeks Monday’s Mailbag, one of our readers asks for advice regarding his relationship that has recently become too close for his comfort. Check out his dilemna below, and the response after the jump.

YoungBrothas,
I find myself checking into your website on the regular, but I miss the weekly relationship and dating articles. I hope you choose my question to get things going again. I have been dating my current girl for almost a year now, and for all but the last month, it had been somewhat long distance. I live in Lorton and work in D.C, and she was going to school in Maryland. We would see each other usually on the weekends, as our weekly schedules kept us both too occupied. Ever since the middle of June, she has moved in with me, as her summer internship is close to my house. At first, it was cool, but now I am ready to evict her! What would you do?

- Eddie

Eddie,

First, thanks for the support of YB, and we hope you tell your friends about us too. Regarding your relationship issue, there are two concerns here. First is the feeling you have of your girl cramping your style. From what it sounds, the “honeymoon” phase of your relationship seemed to extend due to the fact of your distance from each other. Your girl now is doing an internship, so instead of seeing her 2 days a week, you see her every single day. It’s hard to miss someone that is around you that much, and the fact you two are really spending this type of quality time around each other for the first time, you are seeing sides of her you never saw prior. If you keep it 100 with yourself, she is also probably seeing some things about you she doesn’t like, whether she tells you or not.

The other concern that comes up here is to keep things in perspective. In a month’s time, your girl will probably be done with her internship, and will be getting ready I assume to go back to college. If you two make the most of the quality time you have now, so that when you go back to your normal schedule, you miss each other more. It doesn’t sound like you are doing that yet. Your girl sounds like she wants to spend as much time as possible together, and while it’s new to you, that’s not a bad problem to have. Talking to her, expressing your feelings, and offering a compromise to keep things balanced will also help you adjust to the situation. Good luck.

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