5 Signs Of An Unhealthy Relationship

Words by Thomas Jamison

At some point in any serious relationship, you will have a self-realization that either your girl or yourself has lost themselves. When I say “lost” I mean lost the path that they were taking prior to getting together, and the effects of that change can do much more harm than good. Unhealthy relationships often mask themselves to being happy, productive, potentially life long ones at first, but just like any disease, there will be signs before things get really bad. Here are just five of them you should be on the look out for in your relationship.

5. Allowing check ins to happen.

Your relationship should not have the sound or feel of how you were at age 10 when talking with your mom. Mom used to always ask that when I got home from school, I call her to check in. When I headed to football practice, again, check in. Headed over my boys house? Check in too. There was reason for that, though at the time I thought it was a pain in the ass to do. Relationships are different though. Check ins, whether or not your girl wants to admit it, are something all women crave. Of course, most will flat out deny this, and state that they simply want their man to let them know they were thinking about them throughout the day. Guys, you can’t let that political answer throw you off. An insecure woman wants nothing more than to have their man reassure them of their relationship constantly throughout the day.

4. Putting friendships on hold.

We have talked about this before, but having to choose between your friends and your girlfriend is something you shouldn’t have to do. In an unhealthy relationship, however, you may find this choice come up in someway. Stay true to your gut in making that choice if you desire, or flat out refuse to entertaining the question.

3. Money keeps you there.

This one is becoming more popular. More and more guys are dating beautiful women who earn more than them. These successful, independent women often see career achievements make up for personal flaws. She may realize these very flaws, and attempt to make up for it with buying of gifts, or doing things that cause you to become indebted to her. Tread lightly.

2. Communication sucks.

You may talk to your girl every day, but effective communication also takes listening. Most guys forget they need to hear what their woman wants although she will usually tell you exactly what that is.

1. The love is gone, and you are still here.

Without love, what do you have? Staying in a failed relationship for the sake of kids is not enough.

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