No matter your age, you have likely been in a relationship where your girl brought up the “C” word before you did. Things may have been going smoothly, up until that conversation came up. Sometimes it makes us squirm, other times it makes us lie. There are even other occasions when it winds up being the talk that ends the relationship. No matter what scenario, one thing is certain. There are reasons some of us hate to commit.
7. Is She Ms Right or Ms Right Now?
For one reason or another, we don’t have that gut feeling that the girl we are dealing with at the moment is “Ms. Right.” The “Ms. Right Now” tag is a hard one to shake unless there are some true revelations that a brotha can feel confident in.
6. Birds of a Feather Flock Together.
One way to tell if you are truly ready to settle down is to look at who is in your close circle of friends. Are you still surrounding yourself around fellas that are single, or perhaps “single-minded” ? Do you do the same things now that you are seeing someone as you did when you weren’t?
5. Sex keeps you coming back.
If you can answer yes to the following question honestly, then this one doesn’t apply to you.
“IF me and my girl never had sex for the rest of the year, I would still love her as much as I do now.”
4. Full Court Pressure.
There is nothing worse than dealing with a woman who is putting on a full court press that resembles the Pistons defense back in the day. For some reason, there are some women that think putting pressure or an ultimatum on a man is the answer to get what they want. Usually all that does is speed up their relationship status changing on Facebook to single.
3. Priorities Don’t Match Up.
Depending on where both of you are in your lives, you may not be as good of a “match” as you both think. Perhaps your lady has kids, in which they will always be first and foremost in her life. She may be in grad school pursuing her dream of being a doctor/lawyer etc, and thus doesn’t have the time you may need. On the flip side, you may be an aspiring businessman starting your dream and putting in 70 hours a week. It takes a patient, strong woman to deal with that too.
2. You still have a roster.
This is another gut check that only you can truly answer. If you are dating a woman, and she is ready to make things serious, yet you still have four other dimes in your rotation, it will be tough to make that choice and cut the rest off, if again you aren’t sure she is “the one”.
1. You just aren’t ready.
This one usually takes the cake, and encompasses various reasons. You may not be in a place emotionally to invest energy into another relationship. Financially, you also may be trying to get yourself to a point where you feel comfortable involving someone else in your life.
The time, energy, and selflessness needed to make a relationship work cannot be taken for granted. There are times(often) when a woman is ready to commit, or take a relationship to the next level faster than a man. In those cases, how you handle that interaction with your girl will be key to how the relationship goes from there.
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I been married to the right woman for almost ten years and I still say run nukka run! Being the old dude in the club with no wife and family is probably not as bad as it looks.
Why would you say run if you been married to the right one all this time? You sayin marrying the wrong one has long ill effects?
Number 5 had me before. I thought I was in love but it was just the head she gave that kept me coming back!
It was like that?
I would rather hear some of these reasons, as opposed to lies, or "I just don't want a relationship" and no explanation
No explanation is the easy way. You dont have to have "that talk" the one that is uncomfortable and guys know will end in that woman either cussing them out or crying
So does this mean that mean are too afraid to face the responsibility of being honest? What a cop out dont ya think?
i say have "that talk" sooner than later the sooner you know where you stand the later will be a lot easier. You need to know your man line of thinking so ask direct question and expect clear concise answers and the actions should go alone with the words. Ladies if he leaves Hell let him gooooooooo, kick rocks he ment you no good.
I TOTALLY agree! =)
keep waiting hope someone better would come along, sometimes they missed out and end with the psycho dime!